Kim GregoryComment

10 tips… for the young and bereaved

Kim GregoryComment
10 tips… for the young and bereaved

On average, one child in every classroom will experience the death of a parent or sibling before they are 16. Adolescent grief has a devastating impact, with research showing links to mental health issues and social and behavioural problems. Here, a bereaved young person advises how to help others dealing with the loss of a loved one.

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1 Write down your feelings or thoughts on paper, then screw it up and throw it away.


2 Keep a diary where you can write down anything that comes to you — thoughts, poems and lyrics.


3 Talk to people who understand how you feel, and to those who knew the person you have lost.


4 If seeing their things around the house upsets you, put them safely away and 
take them out another time. 


5 It’s OK to feel sad, angry, scared, or to cry. It’s also OK to feel happy and enjoy things.


6 Visiting the grave may make you feel closer to the person you have lost.


7 Talk to the person you have lost, either out loud or in your head.


8 It’s OK not to think about death and loss all of the time, specifically the person you have lost.


9 Think about happy and special times with that person, and feel glad to have had them in your life.


10 Ask for a cuddle.


Grieftalk, the new helpline from Grief Encounter, provides children with support after loss. Call free on 0808 802 0111, chat online or email: