Life coach Marina Pearson offers advice on how changing our thinking can help us deal with problem people in our lives.
Think about your feelings
When someone is being negative, their behaviour is an indication of what mood they are in. It’s easy to react in a negative way, depending on how you are feeling — but try approaching the situation with compassion. Recognise that the behaviour is not personal but could be a sign that they are suffering.
Arguments are often caused by mutual bad moods, rather than the actual subject. Sit and talk it out when you are both feeling good — this can transform a miscommunication into a deeper connection.
Trust your gut instinct
Give yourself time and space to settle, and rely on your instincts to know whether a relationship has run its course. Sometimes in life, though it’s sad, we have to say goodbye to certain relationships. Listen to your instincts to know when it’s time.
Change your perspective
There’s no such thing as a difficult person, only difficult thinking. What makes someone frustrating is the way we are experiencing them. Always try to see it in a different light.