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How to... Help a grieving friend

Bauer XcelComment
How to... Help a grieving friend

Communicate in a different way

If you find it hard to talk to your friend face to face, you could send a letter, text or email to let them know you are thinking about them.

Listen rather than talk

Talking about the person who died can really help someone begin to cope with their grief. If your friend starts to talk about the person, listen to what they have to say. Don’t try to change the subject, even if it makes you feel uncomfortable. 

Let them express their emotions

It’s important for your friend to be able to express the way they feel in a safe environment. These emotions can range from sadness to more unexpected emotions such as anger.

Be patient

There is no time limit on grief and your friend may need to cry or talk about their loss for many months or years afterwards. You could make a note of any dates or anniversaries that are likely to be particularly difficult, and get in touch then.

Suggest an activity

After some time has passed and you feel they are up to it, you could watch a film together or go for a walk. You could also do things that remind them of the person who died. You don’t have to talk while doing this — just having you there will be reassuring.