You don't need to be an expert to help. Small everyday actions can make the biggest difference
Show your support
If you know someone has been unwell, don’t be afraid to ask how they are. They might want to talk about it, or they might not. But just letting them know that you care can be really helpful.
Ask how you can help
Everyone will want support at different times and in different ways, so ask how you can help. For example, it might be useful to help keep track of medication or give support at a doctor’s appointment.
Be open-minded
Phrases like ‘cheer up’, ‘I’m sure it’ll pass’ and ‘pull yourself together’ don’t help. Try to be non-judgmental and listen. Someone experiencing a mental health problem often knows best what’s helpful for them.
Don’t just talk about mental health
Most people don’t want to be defined by their mental health problem, so keep talking about the things you’ve always talked about together.
Look after yourself
Supporting someone else can sometimes be stressful. Making sure that you look after your own wellbeing can mean that you’re more able to help. For example, try to set some boundaries to ensure you don’t take too much on. Share your caring role with others and talk to someone about how you are feeling.
● From Stephen Buckley, head of information at mental health charity Mind.