You may be worried about getting in touch or unsure what to say. Here’s how to help someone feel supported and loved
Getting in touch
You may find yourself avoiding a friend or family member when someone close to them dies. You might be worried about saying the wrong thing or be unsure what to say. But your support could really help — people who are grieving say the worse thing someone can say is nothing.
Be specific
Practical offers of help are often more useful than general ones. Offer to cook dinner or do their shopping. Be honest about the fact you want to help but are unsure how.
Listen rather than talk
Allowing your bereaved friend or family member to talk about the person who died can really help them cope. If they talk about the person, don’t change the subject. Listen to what they have to say without interrupting.
Let them express their emotions
Try to create an environment where they feel safe and can express what they’re feeling. Their emotions may range from sadness to more unexpected emotions like anger. Respect how they feel.
Suggest an activity
There may be particular times that are difficult for them. They may be busy at work during the week but find the weekends lonely. Offer to watch a film together or go for a walk. Just having some company will be supportive and reassuring.